Why does the media obsess over who is gay
By Barrett White
So, who is the male and who is the woman?
We’re both males. We’re partners. We share duties and don’t subscribe to traditional gender roles. At least, that’s how it is in my own relationship. And here we are, six years together, and people still believe it’s okay to ask me if my companion or I shapeshift into a lady behind closed doors, as if the notion that two people of the same gender can live together and share their lives, love, household chores, and career workload equally is somehow as difficult to grasp as hieroglyphs.
Okay, I’m existence cynical. I understand that’s not what they mean, but I digress—why perform people think it’s okay to question that of me, or of any other queer person in a lgbtq+ relationship? My loved one, the goofball that he is, suggestions this: “Next moment [they ask], just be like, ‘we don’t have sex, we just take in each other’s drive like photosynthesis.’”
I consulted with Carolyn Hendrix, a LCSW-supervisor in Houston. “I can’t speak for why anyone does anything, but from a theoretical perspective, it comes from a sense of otherness,” Hendrix says.“For someone who doesn’t determine with queer customs or the transsexual and gender-diverse com
by Fred Penzel, PhD
This article was initially published in the Winter 2007 edition of the OCD Newsletter.
OCD, as we know, is largely about experiencing harsh and unrelenting disbelieve. It can bring about you to question even the most basic things about yourself – even your sexual orientation. A 1998 explore published in the Journal of Sex Research found that among a collective of 171 college students, 84% reported the occurrence of sexual intrusive thoughts (Byers, et al. 1998). In command to have doubts about one’s sexual identity, a sufferer need not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all. I have observed this symptom in young children, adolescents, and adults as successfully. Interestingly Swedo, et al., 1989, establish that approximately 4% of children with OCD experience obsessions concerned with forbidden aggressive or perverse sexual thoughts.
Although doubts about one’s have sexual identity might seem pretty straightforward as a symptom, there are actually a number of variations. The most obvious form is where a sufferer experiences the mind that they might be of a different sexual orientation than they formerly believed. If the su
Why Do Gay Men Idolize Female Pop Stars?
Pop identity is the gay religion and pop stars are our goddesses…
By Bobby Box
Every gay has his legend, and I am no different. Mine? Victoria Beckham, the fashion-savvy Spice Miss with resting bitch deal with and the fewest verses on any of the girl group’s iconic, coming-of-age tracks. Whenever she’d seductively point her finger at the camera – her signature move – I’d squeal. Truth be told, Posh was my first crush, and when she married David Beckham I was genuinely hurt, because I loved her. I even followed her devastatingly short-lived and substandard solo music career.
To idolize a female pop star is nothing new for queer-identifying men. Cher, Madonna, Ariana, Taylor, Gaga, Kylie – you name her and she’s got legions of hard-stanning homosexuals who’ve assembled shrines immortalizing her in their bachelor apartments. Admittedly, I am not as hard of a “stan” as others. Since Posh, I haven’t experienced the same level of hopeless devotion towards a pop artist. But, fortunately for me, I’ve got Lgbtq+ Twitter to consult – and its users never disappoint.
“Gay men use women as avatars for themselves,” one Twitter user said, and this per
Why are straight people obsessed with homosexuality? Seriously...
Oh bugger, am about to become in big twubble.
From living in one of the largest metropolis in the world, New York Capital, for nearly a decade and another decade in San Francisco, have met, befriended, hired/fired, worked with sexually active people in all forms -and by all forms mean all forms. You name the sexual preference, I probably have known a person who has it.
With the case of generalized homo-sexuality, male-male, femme-femme, trans-male, trans-femme versus straight-sexuality, the issue always is the same, among the unbiased at least: sexuality is a private matter. So, when pushed by socio-economic, socio-political, socio-theological means, the normal straight person feels violated in their right of privacy and to not have to be a viewer of anothers sexual preference.
Honestly, I believe that is the real issue. It isn't sexual-phobia for them, it is the feeling of, "Keep your sexuality to yourself". Because, generally, by bringing sexuality into the public eye one is infringing on the rights of another and imposing their perspective regardless of anothers perspective or selection.
The alter argum
The recent Unbelievable? Live display on sexuality, gender and identity was a very good evening. Justin Brierley interviewed Andrew Bunt and Charlie Bell on one of the burning issues of the day. Is a practising, gay lifestyle compatible with biblical teaching?
I thought the tone and the content were terrific. Justin was gracious, as always, and both Andrew and Charlie debated in a warm and civil manner. It was awesome to behold.
I wanted to raise some questions but I decided it would take too long to explain my interest in Epicurus (341-270 BC) and Aristippus (435-356 BC). Am I a sad loser? Probably.
I am not talking here about ancient Greek footballers but influential Greek philosophers. Today we are witnessing a revival of the Epicurean way of life and it illuminates all discussions about sex and how we comprehend sexuality. Scholars like NT Wright and Catherine Wilson are helping us to understand the pervasive Epicurean worldview.
Here is my concise, pithy outline of these two influential boffins: Epicurus and Aristippus. Understanding their worldviews can help us think about sex.
Epicurus
While Epicureanism today is often understood to refer to a person’s refined