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What does it mean if you’re having same-sex dreams? A therapist’s advice
It’s 3 a.m. and suddenly you bolt awake after experiencing a highly erotic sexual dream about your female best friend. You are straight, or so you thought, but you just had a vivid desire about someone of your same gender. Now you can’t go back to sleep. You lie in bed, tossing and turning because your brain is stuck in a loop.
One second it’s telling you, “Maybe this means I have always been suppressing homosexual desires?” and then it’s saying, “No, no, I’ve always been attracted to men!” Back and forth the game goes, wanting a winner, needing an answer. You undergo the urge to figure it out, right there at 3 a.m., sleeping next to your fiance, whom you will be marrying next month.
You touch highly anxious now, as the minutes turn into hours. You look at the clock at 5 a.m. and your chest feels tight—you’re still thinking about this sex visualize with your best buddy, your maid of honor. You tell yourself something like, “maybe this is a sign that I’m not ready to earn married” and find yourself mentally reviewing your past, all of your relationships, and wondering if this dream really means something major ab
How should a Christian act toward a friend who comes out of the closet (as lgbtq+ or trans)?
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As Christians living in today’s culture, it is increasingly likely that we will own some friends arrive out of the closet as “gay” or “trans,” and we need to respond appropriately.
We must realize certain truths about God and the human sin nature so that we will contain a proper perspective toward others, including friends who reach out of the closet. As Christians, we recognize that all people demand love and grace, including friends who come out of the closet. And, as Christians, we are ambassadorsfor Christ (2 Corinthians 5:20). Through Christ, we have a affair with the living God. We acquire the hope of eternal life, and we can disseminate the offer of eternal life with others.
Our response to a friend who comes out of the closet as gay or transitioned differs depending on whether the partner claims to be a Christian. First, we’ll consider what the Bible would have us carry out when an unbelievingfriend comes out:
We should not cut ties with unsaved friends who come out of the closet as gay. Jesus freely associated with sinners, including prostitutes and the pariahs of His population (see Luke 5:30
How Should Christians Respond to Gay Friends or Family Members?
Caleb Kaltenbach (M.A. ’07) is an alumnus of Biola’s Talbot School of Theology, lead pastor of a large church in Simi Valley, Calif., and a married father of two. He’s also an emerging voice in the discussion of how Christians should engage the LGBT community. That’s because Kaltenbach has an insider perspective, having been raised by a dad and mom who divorced and independently came out of the closet as a gay guy and a woman-loving woman. Raised in the midst of LGBT parties and lgbtq+ fest parades, Kaltenbach became a Christian and a pastor as a young senior. Today, he manages the tension of holding to the traditional biblical training on sexuality while loving his lgbtq+ parents.
Kaltenbach’s unique story is detailed in his new publication Messy Grace: How a Pastor with Gay Parents Learned to Love Others Without Sacrificing Conviction and landed him on the front page of the New York Times in June. Biola Magazine reached out to him to talk about his book and his perspective on how Christians can superior navigate the complexities of this issue with truth and grace.
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